Resistance to what is
We spend much of our lives in an attempt to run away from feelings of anxiety, insecurity and various fears. The perfect example of this resistance is the phrase "I don't want to feel this way". We, therapists, hear this…
To those, who want to change
Once-in-a-while I discover something that puts into words what I have been thinking about, but could never express with such clarity and eloquence. This is one of those writings which I ran into in LiveJournal. I would love to share…
Manipulations
Manipulations… This is an amazingly wide and rich topic. Many wonderful books are written about it. The abundance of opinions is staggering. However, I will still dare to offer some musing about this subject. My opinion has changed many times…
How to Stop Creating Codependent Relationships and Overcome Codependence
Article by Elena Ryabtzeva (Translated from Russian by Galina) The question about how to stop creating codependent relationships and overcome codependence is a loaded one. One can write several books on the subject and yet it wouldn’t be enough. For…
Driving lessons
For as long as I remember I always wanted to have a car and drive. First it was one of those little “toy” pedal cars made for children to sit in. Then it was a bicycle (fortunately, I had several…
The Paradox of Choice
We’ve all probably heard people talking about “making choices." You always have a choice, we are told. Teach our children make the right choices. On the surface it seems that we do have choices – at least between what is…
Somebody is looking…
Recently I learned a very important lesson in life... If you think that nobody sees you and nobody pays attention to you, look up and you might see a lot of eyes looking at you... If you look down at…
Nature of pain and suffering
In this article I will make an attempt to describe some revelations and insights I had during a course of Vipassana. I don’t understand everything and some things I don’t understand at all, but I hope my thoughts might help…
Intimacy and Fear of intimacy
Intimacy is being able to communicate without the fear of being judged and rejected, without getting defensive. It also means being understood and heard – beyond words and actions. It’s sharing of thoughts, feelings, bodies and souls on every level.…
Love, Openness and Creativity
If we go to the most basic level of feelings and emotions, we can discover that all of our feelings and emotions essentially originate from only two states – love or fear. In their pure and ultimate form these two…