How to Get Over a Breakup
Breakups are amongst the most painful and agonizing experiences we can have in our lives. The pain might feel unbearable in the moment and make us think that we will never recover from it! The end of relationship can leave…
Can I Win My Partner’s Love After Years of Hurt?
Unfortunately, it’s not uncommon for couples to come to therapy when one spouse already has one foot out the door. After years of neglect, dysfunction, poor communication, constant fights, or even worse - infidelity - your spouse may have had…
10 Common Couple Behaviors That Kill Connection
10 Surprisingly Common Couple Behaviors That Kill Connection, Lightly Roasted for Your Reading Pleasure Let’s face it: relationships are beautiful, messy, mysterious, difficult… and occasionally one sarcastic sigh away from a Netflix password standoff. While love might be what brings…
How to Prepare for “Empty Nesting”
It’s early evening, daylight is slowly fading out. My hubby and I are standing in the driveway and watching our youngest daughter driving away for her very first solo trip in the car to the local Taco Bell. I steal…
Boundaries and Boundary Violations
The Hidden Cause of So Many Arguments One of the things I see again and again in my work with couples is the lack of understanding of boundaries and how easily they can be violated. Most people think of boundaries…
When to Call it Quits in a Relationship
Relationships, especially the long term kind, can be one of the hardest things people do in life. Unless you’re the lucky one who grew up in a healthy, loving family and automatically KNOW how to be in relationship, you will…
Five “Dont’s” of Relationship
One of the difficulties in “fixing” relationship problems is that we’re often not aware how much we contribute to those problems. It’s easy to see what our partners are doing but it’s hard to see what we are doing. I…
Is Jealousy Destroying Your Relationship?
-- “Why is she running 20 minutes late? Is she seeing someone?” -- “He is always on his phone, he must be chatting with a girl.” -- “She closed her browser when I approached her, I am sure it’s another…
10 Essential Ingredients of Healthy Relationships
Marriage therapists work predominantly with people who didn’t grow up in a healthy family or home. As a result, many of our clients don’t even know what healthy relationship looks like. Here I’ll list some of the ingredients that are…
How to Stop Fighting With Your Partner
I recently watched (yet again!) this wonderful and touching movie with Bruce Willis and Michelle Pfeiffer – "The Story of Us." It depicts very realistically fights that couples often have: She: “You are not really hearing me!” He: “You are…