One of the things I see again and again in my work with couples is the lack of understanding of boundaries and how easily they can be violated. For example, some extremely common questions such as “What’s wrong with you?”…
Relationships, especially the long term kind, can be one of the hardest things people do in life. Unless you’re the lucky one who grew up in a healthy, loving family and automatically KNOW how to be in relationship, you will…
One of the difficulties in “fixing” relationship problems is that we’re often not aware how much we contribute to those problems. It’s easy to see what our partners are doing but it’s hard to see what we are doing. I…
-- “Why is she running 20 minutes late? Is she seeing someone?” -- “He is always on his phone, he must be chatting with a girl.” -- “She closed her browser when I approached her, I am sure it’s another…
Marriage therapists work predominantly with people who didn’t grow up in a healthy family or home. As a result, many of our clients don’t even know what healthy relationship looks like. Here I’ll list some of the ingredients that are…
I recently watched (yet again!) this wonderful and touching movie with Bruce Willis and Michelle Pfeiffer – "The Story of Us." It depicts very realistically fights that couples often have: She: “You are not really hearing me!” He: “You are…
I was at a hair salon the other day. My hairdresser and I stroke a conversation about life in general, about the fact that sometimes her salon clients confide in her and tell her their stories. I mentioned that I…
Love should be the foundation of a solid relationship. You love you partner, your partner loves you. This is a good start, but love is not enough. You’ll also need to master some skills to make love last and grow…
Contrary to what many people think, the answer in the majority of cases is yes! Especially, if you have children. Children are always happier in a full, original family unit. In general, the exceptions involve cases of abuse, addictions and…
What are some of the things that make marriages succeed or fail? Emily Esfahani Smith wrote a wonderful article in The Atlantic about the research that sheds the light on this issue. Here is an excerpt from the article: "Science…